How do you define bravery?

Came upon this words in a novel that I just finished reading.

There are so many ways to be brave in this world. Sometimes bravery involves laying down your life for something bigger than yourself, or for someone else. Sometimes it involves giving up everything you have ever known, or everyone you have ever loved, for the sake of something greater.

But sometimes it doesn’t.

Sometimes it is nothing more than gritting your teeth through pain, and the work of every day, the slow walk toward a better life.

I was silent for a moment.

I have this habit, like talking to myself just after I read something that is interesting or strong. Just a short comment whether for agreeing or disagreeing with the phrase. And at that moment, the words were there in the tip of my tongue, yet I chocked out.

I kept thinking.. How do you define bravery? With a lot of different influences, stories, lessons, experiences, or scars, that each individuals faced or had before, it’s not surprising if the answers won’t be so much alike between each other. Unless there is a standard for it, which there isn’t.

Every person has their own fears. Maybe for some people, being brave is about facing their fears. One by one. Until none left. They become a fearless person. Then, is there still something brave they can do when they become fearless? What does bravery mean for those fearless person?

As we walking through different pages of our lives, we encountered many obstacles. Stuff we hadn’t prepared for. Dramas that we have been avoiding but eventually caught up with us. Break ups that haunted us for a long, long time. Decisions that wouldn’t make us a winner no matter what. And many other things that have tested us in some way.  Is it what you called ‘bravery’ that supported you through each step that you have taken until today?

Letting go, that one person that you have to let go because it’s breaking you apart. Taking a risk, because you believe that it will come out to be a good thing in the end. For some other people, being brave is the key to do it. Being brave to finally admit that you can’t have that someone in your life. Being brave to finally make a decision and take the risk. Then.. after all those moments have passed away, can you see bravery in the same way again? or has it changed over the years?

and then I go back again to the last sentence in the phrase above and I realized that even for those fearless people, those who passed all the obstacles in their life, and those who finally let go or took some risk, all of them are still bound to be brave. To be brave enough to not let their minds fall to their old fears again. To be brave enough to keep walking with what’s left of you or with the changes after you passed those obstacles. To be brave enough to keep moving forward with the pain and stand on what you have decided no matter what other people thinks about you.

Indeed. All those… are for the better life ahead.

Are you brave enough?

 

Erwin.

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